No pictures of artwork, fashion, or whatever today. I’m simply going to write what is on my mind.
I’ve come to the realization that I do not have many friends. This may sound kind of bad, but let me attempt to explain this…
For clarification, this is NOT a sob story. If anything it’s a statement or an expression to show a more personal side of Nia Langley.
The relationships that I have with many people are nearly difficult to explain. I come in contact with many people, and form some sort of new relationship with at least one person everyday. However, I think some people I come in contact with are too quick to call me ‘friend’.
When it comes down to it, I’m not mad at people for assuming we have a genuine friendship. Today, the word ‘friend’ gets tossed around way too often (along with the word ‘love’, but that’s another story). Society now has made the idea or concept of friendship not as big of a deal. I do get annoyed, however, when people who claim I’m their friend assume that I am supposed to fulfill some sort of duty for them (I really don’t know how to explain it). I have no obligation to most people, because I do not truly know most people. I do not truly know most people, because most people I come in contact with are, in truth, acquaintances. Though there are many acquaintances I am very fond of, I cannot say they are my friends without really knowing them.
Is this making any sense?
It’s not like I don’t want friends. I simply want REAL ones. I think the more people you let into your life, the more complicated it gets. With that being said, I don’t want to rush into many friendships, and just because we’re not friends, doesn’t mean I won’t do anything nice for you. I just don’t want people expecting things from me without knowing me. I’d rather start as acquaintances, build a bond, build trust, and form a friendship. Almost all of my acquaintances have the potential to become my friends. I’m simply not in any hurry to make that transition.
If you can’t tell already, my circle of friends is rather tight right now. Not because I’m cold and distant from people, but because it’s difficult for me to keep friends. It’s difficult for me to keep friends, because people tend to get offended when I tell them the truth. I’m not the type to just go around lying. I’m also not the one who doesn’t speak up when I think something is wrong. I say what’s on my mind. I’m not loud, but I do say what I want to say (if I’m sure what it is) when I want to say it. If people are real with me, I’m going to be real with them. If people are fake with me, I’m still going to be real with them. That’s just the way I am.
Along with being real with people, I think my remarks are sometimes misunderstood. I think I can be a really nice person to be around, but when someone crosses my line, it will not always be a pretty picture. If someone steps on my toes, I don’t allow the foot to stay there. I kick it off of me usually.
The thing that’s soooo bizarre about this is I’m really not a mean person! And (specifically recently) I’ve come to the realization that I like to see people happy. I enjoy meeting new people. I like to make people smile, and I think that everyone should know what it feels like to be loved.
So to wrap this all up, I think my views on friendship are a bit different than the next guy’s. I know it’s kind of weird, but I really want to stay grounded, and I think the best way to do that while having relationships with people is by having true friends that you really know. I also want someone who will put in the same amount of work into the friendship, so it’s not just me working by myself. I am NOT anti-people! I would rather really get to know someone better as I build trust.
That’s all I have to say on this. Did you follow me at all? Hopefully…haha
What are your thoughts on friendship? What do you think true friendship is?
Thanks for reading!
15 Comments
Poison 25 January 2011
follow you :*** d
Ellen ♥ 25 January 2011
Nice post. How are you Nia? A real friend is so hard to find. 🙂 But I spent most of the time alone and not with friends. haha
have a nice day!
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Yajaira 25 January 2011
Real friends are not many..
we many know LOTS and LOTS of people that don't mean anything to our personal lifes..
I'm lucky to say I have great friends that i can count on…
real friends are like a relationship you need to feed it for it to grow and be stronger.. dedicate time to it.. be open minding to accepting.. respecting..
is many things..
Mumtaz® ♥♥♥♥ 25 January 2011
I have allot of fake friends . And i just hate too see it. When they are with other people they talk bad about me. When they are with me, they act like they love me. But i have real frends two but not many. And iam happy with it. But THERE ALLOT OF FAKE FRIENDS IN THIS WORLD
ABIGAIL NY 26 January 2011
I've been blessed that I've found real friends and we've gone through tough times so to know that they are true. I wish everyone just had one true friend rather than a bunch of fake ones!!
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Vinda Sonata 26 January 2011
i can totally relate to this post. i guess we have something in common, and that's the insight regarding friendship
i'm not someone who makes friends easily, too, because i tend to be skeptical. that's why i completely agree with the term that the words 'friend' and 'friendship' have been highly overrated nowadays, and i have to say that i dislike the fact that both terms as well, in reality, are suffering from degradation, where they are not supposed to be in such low place
the terms 'friend' and 'friendship', like a 'relationship' should be taken more seriously, i can't agree more with you.
anyway, talking about having so few of close friends, you're absolutely not alone: because that's what i am too. i only hang out with very few people i could call as friends, and at usual times i avoid people who are not very close when they ask me out.
not that i'm arrogant or having too big of an opinion towards myself, but it is because i simply want to make the term 'friendship' returns into its previous, expensive state
have a great day, love !
Marrisa 26 January 2011
following :]
Leire 27 January 2011
Thanks for your comment!!!!
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The Odd and Chic 27 January 2011
Hey hun! I had a VERY similar experience of this kind recently. Kind of makes you lose faith in the human race, doesn't it? But you can't and the reason why is because for every 10 mean, horrible people out there, there is one shining star who would hold your hand till the end. So we should stick it out for them, right :-)?
Love the blog – following you – would love a follow back 🙂
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The Odd and Chic 27 January 2011
Oh and about the camera – it's a very nice Nikon mid-range camera – belongs to my friend and I can't remember what the model number is!
xxx
krystalKULTure 28 January 2011
VERY relatable post. REALNESS
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Anonymous 29 January 2011
GREAT POST! so very very trueee
bitchybeautee 30 January 2011
Hi beautiful . Im just commenting to let you know I am following you now :]
Reg Rodriguez 30 January 2011
i'm with you on this one. i know a lot of people but have only a handfew of friends. friends i can talk to about anything, friends i can run to. 🙂
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Lumpexoholiczka 31 January 2011
beautiful blog!
🙂
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