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From my personal Facebook page…<\/span><\/p>\n

“One day in the third grade, a girl asked me why my gums (gingiva) were black. I lied and said I was fighting with my sister and she punched me in the mouth. That\u2019s the first lie I remember telling.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve lied since then. I\u2019ve said I\u2019ve done my homework when I didn\u2019t. I\u2019ve said I\u2019ve missed texts when I saw them. I\u2019ve said I was okay when I wasn\u2019t. I\u2019ve said I wasn\u2019t hurt when I was. I\u2019ve chalked up my sad appearances to being tired. I\u2019ve said I\u2019ve missed people when I\u2019d forgotten about them. I pretend not to care when I care too much. I pretend not to love when I love too hard.<\/p>\n

This paragraph would be the part where I talk about me trying to force friendships. This would also be the part where I’d confess that every project I’ve started, every venture on which I’ve embarked, everything has been done in a failing, overcompensating attempt to make up for the life that I didn’t get to have – the life I consciously thank God for taking away, but the one I still subconsciously want. (Is it still subconscious if you’re aware of it?) I would end this paragraph with me explaining my belief in my inadequacy.<\/p>\n

But no one wants to read all of that foolery, and I don’t want to write it out either.<\/p>\n

In short, I’ve lied by trying to be more than who I am in the name of overcoming inadequacy. My own standards are impossibly high, and I have yet to meet them, but I’ve lied to act like I have. I’ve lied by creating for people an illusion that I’m cooler than I really am. I\u2019ve lied by preaching self-love and self-worth when I\u2019ve, hypocritically, described myself as insufficient. I’ve lied by saying nothing, squashing emotions, acting tough, and suppressing the over-loving person I am.<\/p>\n

Well, that’s done now. Acting is so bloody exhausting. I will not downplay my love. I will not squash my emotions. I will stop saying crying is for the weak. No longer will I shrink myself to make others more comfortable. It\u2019s okay to love. It\u2019s okay to feel. It\u2019s okay to cry. It\u2019s okay to have black gums.<\/p>\n

In conclusion, I have no bloody idea why I’m even writing this here; I will believe what I preach, and I will act as if I do believe it. Though others are proud of me, I have yet to be proud of anything I\u2019ve done; hopefully, this is the start of something. My name is Nia A.D. Langley, and I have lied to myself by telling myself I was inadequate. I am not inadequate. I am brilliant. I am talented. I am fabulous. I am beautiful. I am adequate. And though I don\u2019t believe it yet (feelings of inadequacy don’t just go away), I\u2019ll repeat these words to myself until I do. I am a child of God. I am me, and I am enough. I am enough.”<\/p>\n

Thanks for reading.
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